What does support realistically look like for each option—like co-parenting help, school/work accommodations, therapy, or community resources—and how do I avoid getting judged by everyone either way?
Real support is not ‘thoughts and prayers’ or people crying harder about your uterus than you are. Real support is rides, childcare, money, notes to professors, therapy links, and someone sitting on the bathroom floor with you while you bleed or breastfeed or both.
How do I figure out what’s legally available in my state (and what it would cost), especially for abortion or adoption, without my parents/partner finding out?
You find out what’s legal and what it costs by using three things: private browsing, legit info sources, and clinics/agencies that actually respect confidentiality.
If I’m not sure I want kids right now, how do I actually compare parenting vs adoption vs abortion without spiraling—like what are the real-life emotional + financial impacts of each?
You compare parenting, adoption, and abortion by getting brutally honest about three things: your support system, your mental health, and your money. Not the fantasy version of your life, the actual one.